Monday, December 31, 2012

What NOT To Wear: New Year's Eve Edition


Happy New Year's Eve, y'all!

What a great year this has been. Not void of challenges by any means, but it was awesome. I feel like I've grown a lot over the past year. And am so excited for 2013. I did a little year in review recap of 2012 & shared my "intentional goals" for 2013. Now it's time for a fashion post...New Year's Eve edition, of course. 

I've seen some pretty amazing posts about what to wear for NYE. As much as I love clothes & shoes, I am definitely no authority on fashion. So I'll leave the how to's & what to wear posts to the experts. ;) 

Instead, I bring you...what NOT to wear this NYE
Because I definitely have some opinions on that.

I had fun putting this together. It's quite simple...just go to google and type in key phrases like tacky NYE fashion or what not to wear on NYE or ugly cocktail fashion and just see what comes up. I dare you. Let's just say that I had myself a good little chuckle over here at all the random images that popped up.

So without further adieu...I bring you...
What NOT to Wear: 2013 New Year's Eve Edition

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Kristin, honey. Where..are..your..clothes? I think I prefer you in a pretty cocktail dress & Chuck Taylor's. Stick to what you know. And don't ever do this again. Seriously...who are her friends? Sheesh. The moral of this story is...you can be cute without being nearly naked tonight. 

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Yikes. Just stop the madness. In 2013, let's stop wearing clothes that don't fit. Matter of fact, let's start tonight.

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I think this dress & blazer would have been perfect without the belt. Don't over-accessorize tonight, ladies. Especially if you're wearing gold sequins, for crying out loud.

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Huge bows.
Big bangs.
Satin gloves.
French rolls.
This all happened in the late 80's/early 90's.
Let's leave it in the decade it belonged.

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I love leopard print. 
Other than that, I have no words for this picture. No words.

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Eek. I'm all about a sexy pair of heels for a special occasion. Well, for any occasion really. But this? Please don't break your necks in the name of "fashion" tonight.  

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Pregnancy is such a beautiful thing. So, so beautiful. And there are so many designers making gorgeous maternity pieces. That said, do not go ANYWHERE wearing something like this. Ever. In your life. I'm begging you.

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Quinceanera? Yes.
Prom? Sure.
Grown woman going out for NYE? Absolutely not.
Let's make sure our attire is age appropriate tonight.


Whatever you do tonight (church NYE service, NYE party, house party), have a blast!

In other breaking news, Kimye is expecting a baby.
I'll reserve all comments & opinions on the matter to myself.
But would love to hear your thoughts. ;)


HAPPY NEW YEAR!



xo,


Saturday, December 29, 2012

It's a Brunch with the Girls + 'Playing Doctor' Kinda Saturday


Today has been a pretty laid back kinda day. I think I've mentioned before that hubby & I are unnecessarily busy...seems like we're always running around here, there, and everywhere...so it's nice to just not have much to do on the weekend. 

My vacay is coming to an end, so I'm trying to prepare my mind for what's to come. The first quarter of the year is the busiest time for me at work so I'm really trying to savor this last bit of quiet and laziness.

I met up with a few of the ladies in our marriage life group for brunch earlier. I really do love just spending time with other women...encouraging one another...talking, laughing, and just being able to relate.



As much as I love my hubby, I recognize that he will never fully get me or think like me. Because, after all, he's a guy. And guys are from Mars...a planet where you can only do one thing at a time, be content watching sports and playing video games all day long, and be very confused when the other species from the planet Venus (i.e., women) cry at the drop of a hat. Anyway, I am majorly rambling. The point of all of this is my time with the ladies in my life is invaluable. And so needed. I actually kinda feel bad for women who don't have authentic relationships with other girls. They are so missing out.

Speaking of Mars, my hubby is coming down with something...I refuse to use the "f" word (i.e., flu), though. We don't have time for the "f". So we're calling it a severe cold...that we hope goes away by Monday. Men are so funny when they're sick...so helpless. But it's OK...I don't mind playing doctor every once in awhile.


Annnddd here is my very comfy OOTD!

.:: details ::.
sweater: Rusty Rabbit (boutique in Grapevine) | top: Target
jeans: Express | boots: Nine West Outlet
hair scarf: Old Navy

Hope you dolls are enjoying your weekend so far! <3

Oh & a special PSA from my hubby:
Keep your hands washed and don't touch your face or the "f" might be coming for you, too. ;)

xo,

Friday, December 28, 2012

High Five for Friday


Today I'm linking up with Lauren for H54F!



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{1} This one is more of a high AND low. High: I found these GORGEOUS shoes on shoemint.com. And was super excited when they arrived the other day. Low: But sadly, I CAN NOT walk in them. And here's the thing...I'm a heels kinda girl. But these...can't do it. I tried them on and almost twisted my ankle TWICE! :| Sooo...I've decided to send them back. Sad day.

(2) My dessert contribution, Lemon Brownies, for our family Christmas gathering. My family is very particular about food. You'd think they're all pro food critics...tough crowd. But they loved them! I'll definitely be making another batch soon.

{3} At D&B with some of my college girlfriends. It was so great seeing everybody!

{4} Daddy & Aunt Rhonda fighting over a gift card during our family white elephant exchange. haha!

{5} Date night at Mi Cocina last night...when all of the left overs & sweet potato pie are gone, what's the alternative? Guacamole & strawberry margaritas, of course. ;)

Have an amazing weekend, loves!

xo,


Thursday, December 27, 2012

Living Intentionally in 2013


I am ter-ri-ble with resolutions. Probably because I NEVER follow through with them. So instead of listing a bunch of fluffy resolutions, I've compiled a list of 10 intentional goals for 2013.

1. {Less me. More God. More others.}


I'm challenging myself to serve God & others through weekly random acts of kindness. Writing more letters & thank you cards. Paying for strangers' coffee at Starbucks. Giving up a close parking spot to the car behind me. Taping a dollar to a vending machine, etc, etc.

2. {Daily spiritual food}

Wanna know more about my 2013 Project 52 challenge?
Read about it here & here.
And join me!

3. {Reject passive-aggression}

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I'm embarrassed to admit this, but I'm kind of passive-aggressive. Yet, I DESPISE passive-aggression. For some reason, God saw fit to put a LOT of passive-aggressive people in my path. And through those relationships, I realized that I struggle with it, too. Some people are SUPER passive-aggressive. I, on the other hand, am more of an undercover passive-aggressor. ;) Either way, it's a sucky way to be. So this year, I am rejecting passive-aggression. No sassy emails or text messages. Or cutting, below-the-belt comments. If I have an issue with something or someone, I will: 1) pray first; 2) pick up the phone or schedule a coffee date to have the tough discussion.

4. {Stick to my monthly clothing budget & make smart purchases}

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When I shop, I don't necessarily have a plan. I just buy things that are cute...and on sale. But no more of that in 2013. I've been inspired by a couple of bloggers (Franziska of Franish & Kimmie of Blue Paper Lanterns) to set and stick to a monthly clothing budget, keep track of my purchases, AND keep a running list of items I need want to round out my closet.

5. {Share my faith more}

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This one's pretty self-explanatory. Each opportunity I pass up to share my faith with someone is like me saying Jesus, I appreciate you dying on the cross for my sins and all, but not enough to share the same hope of eternal life with someone else. Shame on me. And yes, I have a fear of rejection, but if it's really about God, who cares? Need to work a little harder at removing myself from the situation and just be obedient.

6. {Work through my inventory & make amends}

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In 2011, I went through a year long 12-step Christ-centered recovery program to identify the areas of my life that were holding me back from loving God & others...and making amends with those I've hurt and who have hurt me. I learned that I struggle with trusting God in all things, which manifests itself in control, fear, shame, and people-pleasing...among other things. One of the steps in the process was putting together an inventory of people who have hurt me & vice versa. And from there, releasing those hurts to God and making amends with those people. Sadly, I skipped right over the amends part. And today, there are still a few people I have not fully forgiven. So I plan to dust that old inventory off and work on making amends. I know this will be so incredibly hard for me, so I covet your prayers. 

7. {Be myself. Enjoy blogging. Ignore the stats.}

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I don't plan to ever make blogging a business or make any real money off of it. So why should I care so much about stats? Don't get me wrong...one of the best parts about blogging is the feedback and sweet comments I get from other bloggers. But I can't be completely driven by the number of followers I have or comments I receive. Nor do I need to allow myself to fall into the trap of comparing my blog to other blogs. Selfless Ambition is MY creative outlet. So I'm working on just being me, enjoying this blogging journey, and not focusing on the stats.

8. {Be a better step mom}


I'm not a good stepmom. How's that for honesty?
I shared here about how I've been pretty selfish over the past 3 years with respect to "sharing" my husband. Being a blended family is much harder than I expected. But Kendall deserves more from me. So I am committed to creating more opportunities to connect with her. And working on loving her right where she is. I'm sure that sounds crazy considering that I'm talking about a 6-year-old...but this is very real for me...for us.

9. {Intimacy with my husband}

And by intimacy, I mean s-e-x. TMI? Probably. But that's OK. It's one of my goals, so I figured I'd share. The bottom line is that I need to break my husband off on a regular basis. Pow.

You don't become this old & still in love with your spouse without regular nooky! heeeeeeyy! 

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P.S. Mom, I really hope you're not reading this! Awkwaaaaaard.

10. {Eat more fruits & veggies and limit fast food to 1x per week}

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I don't cook nearly as much as I should. But that doesn't mean that I get to be lazy and eat fast food all week long. I'm not the young whipper snapper I used to be. And those waffle fries and nuggets tend to stick to my thighs these days. So I'm making an effort to eat more fruits & veggies...and less waffle fries.

There it is, folks!
My intentional goals for 2013.

And for extra accountability, I'm thinking about updating you here each month on my progress against these goals.

Do you have any resolutions/goals for 2013? Do share!

xo,


Linking up with:

Let Them Eat Cake 

To Trend...Or Not to Trend?


...that is the question.

Before we get to this week's topic, let's do a little recap:
And this week's topic is:
Trends I'm REALLY Digging...
And Wearing Often

I started down the path of creating a collage of all of the trends I'm really digging at the moment and suddenly remembered I had pretty much already put one together AND blogged about it here. One of my first blog posts. ;) So rather than start from scratch, I did a little tweaking.



{1} Colored Denim.
I was so excited when colored denim surfaced as a trend! I naturally lean towards neutrals, so colored denim instantly takes the guess work out of adding color to my outfit. Love this trend.


{2} Stripes & Polka Dots.
Stripes are the neutral of the print world. - Bette Midler
So true, Bette. Well said.

{3} Cargo Vests.
I love, love, love cargo vests. Especially in olive green.


{4} Printed Blouses.
I heart a pretty printed blouse. I tend to default to floral prints, but I'm also really loving the tribal print this season. Check out a recent OOTD post featuring a printed blouse I bought on super clearance at the Loft.

{5} Blazers.
Chambray is my fave trend. And a cute well-fitting blazer comes in at a very close second. Wore a killer pink blazer recently & blogged about it here.

{6} Scarves.
Scarves are the ultimate accessory. The perfect finishing touch to any outfit. Check out a few OOTD posts featuring a pretty scarf here and here and here.

{7} Dainty Jewels.
I really am a minimalist when it comes to accessorizing. So I can totally appreciate a dainty alternative to accessory trends like studs and spikes.

{8} Statement Necklaces.
About 8 months ago, I took myself off of statement necklace punishment and decided to give them another shot. You see, I have a pretty long neck. And for a long time, I hated my long neck. The last thing I wanted to do was draw attention to it  by throwing a big fancy necklace around it. But you know what? I think I've seen the light...so the heck with it! God gave me this long neck...so why not accentuate it?!



{9} Chambray.
My chambray obsession is pretty serious. Even recently blogged about it here.

{10} Riding Boots.
This trend has definitely stood the test of time. I bought these Steven Madden boots 2 years ago and they've popped up on the shelves in major department stores every season since then at the same dern price. Whether styled with a dress or a pair of patterned leggings...riding boots are seriously versatile and will probably be around for seasons to come.

{11} Booties.
I instantly fell in love with these leopard wedge booties when I spotted them at Marshall's a few months ago. Blogged about these beauties here.



Next week's {To Trend...Or Not To Trend?} topic: 
Trends I LOVE,
Haven't Yet Tried,
But Definitely Plan to Try Soon 

And the final topic:
Trends That Took Me Awhile To Adopt...But Now I'm a Believer

What trends are you digging and wearing often?

xo,

Linking up with:

 

Wednesday, December 26, 2012

Girls' Night Out: Black & White + A Pop of Pink


Pinterest strikes AGAIN!
Gosh, what did we DO before Pinterest??
I need to add meet the brainchild behind Pinterest to my bucket list.

OK, enough gushing over Pinterest. For today.

I pinned these 4 outfits over the past year or so. 

1 | 2 | 3 | 4

Apparently, I like this color combo. ;)

My friend Jasmin & her hubby usually host a holiday game night each year. But this year, we decided to leave the guys at home for some much needed girl time. And no combo of colors says GNO better than black, white AND pink!

So I took to my closet and pulled out these fun pants I bought recently + a pink-ish blazer, black top & black pumps...and voila! Black, white & pink for GNO!


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top: Target (old) | blazer: JCPenney
pants: JCPenney here | shoes: Aldo here
arm candy: bebe, Forever 21, Kohl's & Michael Kors

I am really loving this J.Crew pave link bracelet.
But NOT enough to pay $125 for it.
So I settled for this much more affordable version from Forever 21...for $14!


And I think I actually like this one better. ;)

Anyway, on to girls' night!

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We had a B-L-A-S-T!
Every girl needs time with her girls. It's just a must.
LOVE my girls!

xo,

Linking up with:
WIWW @ The Pleated Poppy
Wardrobe Wednesday @ Create Hope Inspire
Random Wednesday @ Because Shanna Said So
Copycat Link-up @ Texas Lovebirds & Trusty Chucks
Copycats & Frills for Thrills


Monday, December 24, 2012

2012 Year in Review...According to My iPhone


I have over 2,000 pictures on my iPhone.
So I figured it was time to start transferring some of them to my computer.
And as I was going through them, I realized just how much happened this past year.
Then it hit me...duh....a year in review blog post was totally in order.

And so I bring you my 2012 Year in Review....According to my iPhone.

January


Your eyes aren't deceiving you.
I found out I was preggers on January 27th.
And on January 28th, I miscarried at 4 weeks.  

I experienced a range of emotions during that time.
But you know what...I didn't really feel sadness.
I think it's because it all happened so fast...less than 24 hours to be exact. 

I still often think about why God wanted me to know I was pregnant. And you're probably wondering what I mean by that, huh? Basically, my friend Kim had arranged for a group of us to go skydiving for her 30th birthday on January 28th. I had a feeling I might be pregnant, so I bought a couple of home pregnancy tests & scheduled a last minute doctor's appointment on the afternoon of the 27th. My doctor confirmed I was pregnant so I of course had to cancel skydiving. I woke up on the morning of the 28th and {I'll spare you the details} knew I needed to call my doc & head over to the ER. Anyway, I say I wonder why God wanted me to know I was pregnant because if it wasn't for skydiving, I wouldn't have scheduled that last minute doctor's appointment the day before. And would've just assumed that I was starting my cycle late because at that point I would've only been 4 days late. I have thought about this off and on over the past year, and haven't come to any conclusion.

And now that we are ready to start a family, I'm definitely a little nervous and have a lot of questions. What if I have another miscarriage? What if I'm further along this time? What if it takes me a long time to get pregnant? What if I can't carry to term for some reason? What if I NEVER get pregnant? WHEW.

When I start with the 20 questions, God brings Jeremiah 29 to remembrance:

"...For I know the plans that I have for you," declares the Lord, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. I will be found by you," declares the Lord, "and I will bring you back from captivity...." - Jeremiah 29:11-14a

So rather than question a future I have no control over, I'm trusting the Lord with His plans for my life. And I'm thankful for this experience & all it taught me about myself.

February  


My hubby's father passed away in February. He didn't really have much of a relationship with him as a kid...or as an adult. But he decided to go to the funeral to pay his last respects...and for closure. He met 2 of his half brothers for the first time and a slew of other family members. It was definitely a bittersweet time for him...for us. And I'm so glad I was able to be there for him. 

March


My friend Robin invited me & 10 other girls to a weekend crafting retreat at an adorable B&B. I love scrapbooking and crafts but rarely make time for either. So needless to say that it was a ton of fun and a VERY relaxing time. Looking forward to the next retreat!


The momentum continued after the retreat {evidenced in the photo above}.
Who knew tape + water colors + a canvas could keep little people quiet for so long?

April


Hubby & the Easter Bunny taking a quick pic at church on Easter.
While real kids wait in line to take a picture. ;)


I traveled to Nashville in April to meet up with some of my college girlfriends! We all live in different places now (Dallas, Memphis & Atlanta) so we only get to see each other a couple times a year. And there are usually husbands, kids, and other interruptions around. :) So it was SO nice to just have a girls' weekend...with no interruptions. The weather was icky that weekend but it didn't matter because we definitely kept each other entertained!

May


{1} By May, it was warm enough for swimming. So we took Kendall & my nephew, Dominick, to the interactive fountain nearby to release some kid energy.

{2} Thanks to Pinterest, I made a few Quick Bread in a Jar Mother's Day gifts for a few deserving moms in our community.


Us & 3 other couples took a little 2-hour road trip to Granbury for a Memorial Day Weekend Couples Retreat. It was an a-ma-zing weekend! We learned a lot about each other, challenged one another, encouraged one another, ate REALLY good, and even had a little fun. ;) 

June


{1} Going away party for my good friend, Brittany, who traveled to Australia & Uganda for a 6-month discipleship program. I love her. She's so amazing.

{2} Father's Day lunch with my daddy.

{3} My handsome bro-in-law's graduation day.


This picture makes me laugh.
This is what you call GOOD sleep. :)

July

 

My dessert contribution for our 4th of July family gathering.
Courtesy of Pinterest, of course.


{1} Birthday party for Kendall's friend, Willow.

{2} Baby shower for my sweet friend, Rori.

{3} My first trip to Boston...for work.

August


Supporting Chick fil A. :)

September


{1} Daddy's birthday.


October



{2} A night at the Texas State Fair just days before Big Tex burned to the ground. RIP Big Tex. :(

{3} Halloween-themed sleepover with our favorite family, the Sullivan's.

{4} My 2 fave little people & a pancake breakfast made with love by hubby.

{5} The return of my favorite reality show, Tia & Tamera. My favorite twins! I love them!

November


{1} The return of the Starbucks red holiday cup.

{2} Pre-Thanksgiving dinner for the residents in our community.

{3} Date night! Heading to a friend's 30th birthday party.

{4} Kendall turns 6!

{5} Black Friday at Target. :|

December


{1} Holiday craft event for our residents.

{2} Flowers from my hubby for my 31st birthday.

{3} Hanging with old friends.

{4} Holiday nails!

{5} Heading out for girls' night out!

{6} Pet sitting for a friend. She is Craig's-List-Obsessed and randomly found a hamster, complete with a cage and supplies for $20! haha! It's a Christmas surprise for her kiddos, so we agreed to allow the little rodent to live with us for a week.

{7} Coffee date with my friends, Brittany & Heather.

{8} Our tree!


So typical of me to let a whole year go by without reflecting on where I've been.
And where I'm going.
So I had a lot of fun putting this post together.
I'm excited for the new year & all that's in store.
And about documenting it ALL here on my blog. :)

The unfailing love of the LORD never ends! By his mercies we have been kept from complete destruction. Great is his faithfulness; his mercies begin afresh each day. I say to myself, "The LORD is my inheritance; therefore, I will hope in him!" - Lamentations 3:22-24 

xo,



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